Iโm new to the lifestyle, but I already know a few things about myself.
Iโm not a swinger, and Iโm not a hedonist. I need depth. I need connection. Casual sex is very unlikely to interest me.
What pulls me in is BDSMโthe chance to explore both my submissive side and my dominant/top side.
I have a submissive soul, and Iโm open to meeting a Dominant and possibly building a D/s dynamic.
My obedience is earned.
I need a very specific kind of energyโan embodied dominance I can actually feel. There has to be physical attraction, trust, chemistry, depth, and something in you that makes surrender feel natural rather than expected. Very few people will be able to top me.
There is another side of me that wants to explore power from the top.
Iโm curious about impact play, control, sensation, and what happens when Iโm the one holding that energy. But I do not want to be anyoneโs Domme, and Iโm not looking for a D/s relationship in which Iโm the Dominant.
Topping, for me, is completely nonsexual. No sexual activity. Iโm interested in the scene itselfโthe power, the impact, the exchange, the body, the energy.
If you want me to top you, that happens at Tempted Club. I will not meet privately for play.
BDSM feels spiritual to me. I see it as a way of entering the shadow consciouslyโmeeting desire, ***, vulnerability, power, surrender, and parts of ourselves we may not encounter anywhere else.
For that reason, trust, consent, communication, boundaries and respect are non-negotiable.
Iโm not here just to collect experiences. Iโm here to discover what becomes visible when two people feel safe enough to go deeper.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Degradee
100% Little
100% Rope bunny
95% Non-monogamist
94% Brat
93% Switch
92% Submissive
88% Primal (Prey)
86% Ageplayer
85% Experimentalist
84% Masochist
81% Rigger
77% Voyeur
76% Degrader
75% Brat tamer
75% Sadist
74% Primal (Hunter)
72% Exhibitionist
68% Dominant
53% Slave
23% Vanilla
17% Master/Mistress
16% Daddy/Mommy
14% Owner
6% Pet